It’s that time of year again…holiday parties, festive decorations, and businesses competing for your money in an seemingly endless flurry of ads and discounts. I love this season despite a few hectic moments. I get to be with my family and sit down together to share meals and play games. If you are still considering gift ideas for your friends, colleagues or family, or perhaps you need ideas for games to play at the holiday party, I’d like to help you out by recommending some fun games that promote speech, language and cognitive skills. And these games are fun for both adults and children! Continue reading
When it comes to understanding someone who is from another culture who has a strong foreign accent, how do we listen more effectively to assure that the exchange is successful? Both the listener and the speaker are responsible for making sure that each party has understood. Both the listener and the speaker can use strategies to improve the situation. Here is a tip for the listener who is listening to the hard-to-understand person:
Be educated about the differences between languages. Certain languages have characteristics that are unique to that language. Since a language learner adapts what he knows about his language onto the new language, real differences in the way words are spoken occur. This fact can make the second language learner difficult to understand and can be a distraction to our ears.
There are many languages that don’t sound at all as rhythmic and melodious as English.
As a second language learner, have you ever wondered about the many intonation patterns of American English and how to learn to pronounce them?
What about those multi-syllable words that are intimidating just to look at? Have you ever looked at them and been completely dumbfounded by their pronunciation? So, you say the word as quickly as possible so that no one will notice.
Have you ever said something that even to your own ear, you didn’t recognize the word that just came out of your mouth? And when you are asked to repeat it, you cringed, knowing you won’t be able to say it correctly again.
Do you ever wonder why some speech titles grab your attention more than others and make you curious about the topic?
Do you know the essential ingredients behind a great title that sparks that curiosity?
Sam Wieder, author of the award-winning The Speech Title Cookbook, has created a masterpiece of proven recipes for titles that sell.
“Do you ever croak when you speak?” And what I mean by that is…Do you ever talk at the bottom of your pitch range and sound a bit like bacon frying or frog croaking? Both men and women have adopted this style of speaking and it almost seems like it’s trendy and cool. But it’s not! Those people who notice it find it often times annoying and painful to listen to. The voice isn’t clear and isn’t natural.
Not only this vocal behavior to your vocal cords but it is a distraction to your listener if you do it.
If you got to hear Pope Francis speak at all on his recent trip to the U.S., you witnessed a special sound unlike anyone else. His unique style may contradict what we typically would expect in leaders in the corporate setting but then again, maybe not. His style certainly works as a leader of lay people. Since I work with leaders on their communication style, I want to share the elements of speech and voice that Pope Francis has that brands him so positively and helps win friends and influence others. I divided what we hear in the Pope Francis’ voice into three categories:
Staying relaxed is one of the most valuable states have while speaking English. The oral musculature (tongue, lips, and jaw) vary in tension for the sounds of the English language, but general relaxation of the oral musculature is essential.
Our vocal cords pull together by way of the Bernoulli effect. (If you aren’t familiar with physics, that’s ok! This has to do with air pressure and the way our vocal folds pull together via a vacuum.) However, when the muscles around the larynx are tense, it affects the corresponding sound. The muscles of the larynx and the vocal tract need to be tension free to perform optimally. Imagine holding a tight fist for a period of time. When you are ready to pick up an object, the muscles of your hand will be stiff and tired for a while even for a simple act like picking up something.
Your speech and voice brand is important to who you are as a professional. When something isn’t aligned in the way that you sound and the role that you are in, you risk losing credibility and trustworthiness. If development opportunities exist, it is important to figure out how to make changes. Sometimes it is relatively easy to figure out and often only small changes are necessary to create more impact. No matter what development opportunity you struggle with, there will be three stages you go through to change a habit.
In my last blog, you discovered what a speech and voice brand is. This week I’d like to share with you how to develop your own unique and very special speech and voice brand. Just like a fingerprint, you have a unique sound. You vocal cords developed during puberty to a certain length and mass which gives you the pitch that you use. You are limited in how much you can change your optimal pitch.
As I have evolved as a speech coach over the years, it has become clearer to me that the way we sound creates perceptions and influences the audiences we encounter. You have an identity, too, based on the way you sound and the way you look. It’s a personal brand that you have available to use as a tool to market yourself, to persuade and influence and to create greater impact.